Whether you are a Disney kid or not, it is a universal truth that Disney animated movies carry with them very important and wonderful lessons whether it be on life, love, or family. Its messages can touch the heart and make you realize many things.
Just a few days ago, while viewing some clips of one of my favorite Disney movies -- Beauty and the Beast -- I had come to a conclusion that this cartoon made specifically for kids can also teach the young adults some points about courtship and winning a girl. :)
The movie features two men with different characteristics: one is a man who got rejected and the other is a man who got the girl. Before I get into details about how a guy can win the girl of his dreams, I will first list down the one important thing guys should remember: DON'T BE A GASTON.
"Who is Gaston?" you ask. The main antagonist of the movie, Gaston, was the vain, obnoxious, self centered man who professed his love for Belle. We all know Gaston got a big "NO!" from the woman of his dreams. If we look into Gaston's actions, we can see why Belle just couldn't take a man like him:
1.) Gaston is vain, obnoxious, and self-centered.
I'm sure we all don't like these kinds of people. These are persons who talk about themselves all day and they are the types who often feel they're never wrong. They feel like they're the "King". Guys like this just don't enter the "attractive" list no matter how good-looking he may be.
2.) Gaston made fun of the one thing Belle loved.
Belle is a huge bookworm and books are her very treasured possessions. Gaston, being the vain and insensitive man that he is, made fun of Belle's love for reading and even told her " why don't you focus on more important things like me?"
I won't deny the fact that girls do have some weird hobbies and unexpected favorites; I guess that's a given because girls have the tendency to see the good in all things. However, I don't think that is a proper excuse for a guy to dismiss anything he can't relate to as "gay" or "ridiculous" or "waste of time". It is her passion, it is what she loves. Making fun of what she appreciates is not only a factor that could lessen your chances of winning her; it could also make you look like a total jerk.
3.) Lastly, Gaston takes things tooooooooooo fast.
Not all guys are vain, self-centered, and obnoxious. The number of those who make fun of girls' hobbies are also but few. But, guys who take things toooooooo fast, well, they certainly are many.
After making fun of Belle's love for reading, Gaston formed a grand plan on his mind to surprise Belle with an all-ready, all-set wedding; all she needed to say was "Yes". See how Belle reacted:
I am not saying that guys who plan ahead for a wedding are also going to face this kind of predicament; I actually think that his eagerness to make the girl his wife is really sweet and exemplary. However, abruptly taking the relationship into another level -- without even building the foundation of friendship, or truly knowing the other person and sans the gauging of the girls feelings for you -- could shock her and could create some "awkwardness" into your relationship. No one wants that to happen, right? :)
Guys who are now reading this must be complaining "You girls are weird and very hard to understand! How can we win you then?!" Yes, I must confess that the female gender is composed girls who are moody, mysterious, hard to comprehend, and confusing. But! If you only know what makes a girl tick, what allows the relationship to bloom, and what you need to do to truly win her heart and her trust, you'll discover that girls aren't "that" difficult. Let us give "Beast" (aka as The Prince) the honor to show us how things should be done :)
1.) Although he has some booming temper, he listens to her.
Beast has a very strong character in the movie. However, when Belle told him he needs to control his temper, he followed her. When Belle read "Romeo and Juliet" to him, he was all ears! Believe me or not, girls are easily attracted to guys who can listen to them. Your act of sincerely listening and giving your full attention makes girls wonder "Wow, he is sweet. I love talking to him!" That, gentlemen, raises your pogi-points by a hundred one percent. :). Girls don't like guys who don't allow them to really "talk" like when she's saying something that she thinks is awesome and the guy would cut her off mid-sentence saying "Oh no! That's nothing compared to what happened during my mission!!!" Learn that there's a thing called "give and take". Listen to her when she's talking, compliment her, do not ruin her moment. If the girl's truly into you, she'll do the same (and that's saying something because us girls looooooove to talk!) :)
2.) Beast, even without telling Belle her true feelings, gave her the thing she dearly loved.
Unlike Gaston who made fun of Belle's love for books, Beast asked his friends what they think would make Belle happy. They told him she loved books. After that, Beast gave her her very own library (what a lucky lucky girl).
I'm sure you guys have also heard some girls complain "Wala naman kasing effort. Hindi ko alam kung sincere sya..." (There's just no effort on his part. I don't know if he's sincere). To girls, the word "effort" is important. However, most girls I have conversed with also prefer "effort with mystery". :)
I don't know why but girls love mystery! They say that's the reason why girls love "bad" boys because they are so mysterious. Although I am the girl who prefers and who always roots for "nice guys", I must admit that a little sprinkle of mystery goes a long way. :)
You may wonder, "What do you mean?"
When a guy, who has not yet confessed his feelings, does special efforts for a girl, it makes a girl think "Why is he doing this? Does he like me? The more he does things for her, the more she will wonder. If she likes you, she will be already be anxiously waiting for that day when you will confess to her and verify her hunches. If she does not reciprocate your feelings, it's still okay. That could build a friendship free from awkwardness and who knows, maybe those efforts could also lead to a more colorful road. :)
3.) Beast puts Belle's feelings first.
That was quite a tongue twister, wasn't it? :))) Anyway, we see in the movie that although Beast is already in love with Belle, he still lets her go because she needs to. I think that was really a heartbreak for Beast. That sends a message to guys out there; if you truly love a girl, you also need to know and consider what she feels. Sounds a bit cliche but it's still true till today. You have to be sensitive "Does she like me back?" "Will she understand my feelings for her?" "Will my confession be a shock to her?" Even though it will painful on your part, your respect and understanding of her decision will make her appreciate you. Because Beast considered Belle's feelings above his, Belle realized that she loved him as well, and she came back to him. :). That could happen to you, too. (Well, that happened to Papa and Mama, too. So, yeah *smile*)
Love, just thinking about it, is complicated. The relationship between the opposite sex is both inspiring and mind-boggling. However, if only both sexes know what they should do, love could be pretty much smooth sailing. :)
P.S.
Yeah, I over analyze Disney movies. ;)
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